I had a stroke at the age of 29

By Tam Nestler 

I know what it feels like to have your life turned upside down by stroke – and I am only 30 years old.  

Most people think stroke only impacts elderly people, but that is simply not true. It can happen to anyone at any age. 

My world changed in September last year. I am a mum of two boys. I was working in retail and modelling part-time, when I suffered a stroke out of the blue.

It was just like any other day. I had been to work during the day, picked up the kids, and was going through the hectic night-time routine like mums across the country. I was getting my five year old son, Seth, ready for a shower when I fell backwards onto my bed and started to feel dizzy. 

I called out to my now-husband, Nick, who realised something was seriously wrong. He took me straight to the emergency department at my local regional hospitaI.

I didn’t know what was going on. I was scared. 

I am not sure the medical staff at the hospital knew what was going on either.

After five hours in emergency, I was reviewed and admitted overnight, but discharged the next morning with no diagnosis. Once home, I slept on and off for nearly two-days with worried family members watching over me in shifts. None of us knew what was happening. In an instant I went from a bubbly, active woman to almost a zombie.

When I could no longer move, Nick rushed me back to hospital. My stroke was finally diagnosed and I was airlifted to Melbourne. My local hospital didn’t have the specialists or services needed to treat me.

The following morning surgery was conducted to remove part of my skull and save my life. The stroke had caused my brain to swell.
The stroke left me unable to walk and to feed myself, but I was alive. 

My speech was so slow my family couldn’t understand me at first. I spent the next seven months in rehabilitation fighting to be well and get my life back.
I was determined to not waste a day.

Nick and I had been planning to get married and found ourselves asking “what are we waiting for?”. We decided to go ahead with our wedding, but in a new location – the hospital gardens. 

It was a magical day, we were surrounded by our loved ones. Our sons, Noah and Seth, carried the rings, which was incredibly special. 

Afterwards everyone in the ward joined in the celebrations with platters of food and gifts. It was so much fun. It was the first ever wedding on the rehab ward!

Today, I am making the most of life after stroke. I am finally out of my wheelchair, although I walk with a limp. My speech is slow and slurred. But I am here.

My condition is constantly improving.I just got my driver’s licence back, which has been a huge achievement and I can now drive the boys to school. I have even started my own business making and selling flower crowns online.

In the lead up to National Stroke Week this September, I am determined to raise awareness of the signs of stroke so that nobody has to experience what I went through. 

Stroke is one of the biggest killers in Australia and a leading cause of disability. It kills more women than breast cancer and more men than prostate cancer. Yet stroke is treatable.

I sometimes wonder what my outcome would have been if my stroke had been diagnosed earlier and whether I would have fewer ongoing issues. These days there are amazing treatments which can make an enormous difference if carried out early.

That’s why it’s so important to recognise the signs of stroke and act FAST. Every minute counts. The earlier treatment is delivered, the better the outcomes can be for patients like me. 

My stroke may have put my life on a different course, but it hasn’t changed my personality or attitude. I stay positive, I love being a mum and I am fortunate to be alive.